DV and IPV experts, including the professor that coined the term DARVO, the psychologist who helped take down rkelly, at least three different judges, and Lundy Bancroft himself: yeah johnny depp is absolutely a textbook abuser
Seven randos in Virginia who weren’t sequestered despite this being a high profile case: idk we think she said something mean and he lost money because of it
Every illiterate and stupid fuck with a wifi connection: CLEARLY this means that she abused him and tried to kill him because she is an evil bilesbian temptress and he’s minor and PoC coded!
“Start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and don’t stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just… start.”
Ditch all social media you can. No Instagram account to scroll up endlessly, not checking the Facebook feed, no mindless scrolling, etc. If you use a social media, curate what you read. Declutter the time wasters. Only keep the accounts that genuinely bring you good. Uninstall games and useless apps. Youâll use them when youâre on vacation. Now itâs study time, from the beginning of the semester TO THE END. âBut I use them to uncompress!!â Bullshit you can do something more productive like workouts or cleaning your room. Itâs not an essential need.
For food, focus on meal prep, get 4 Tupperware (or mason pots if you have) and prepare 4-6 meals (2-3 dinners, 2-3 suppers) that contain veggies, proteins, carbs, good stuff that feeds your body and brain. The breakfast is optional, I use my breakfast prepping routine to relax and ground myself before attacking my day. Doing 4 meals at a time is easy and not quite as daunting compared to the traditional 1-week meal prep, and it will stay fresh. You have more time to focus on what matters, you donât waste decision energy on meals and youâre less likely to eat junk food.
Impose yourself a âno junkfoodâ rule in your room or house. Youâre less likely to spill and eat brain rotting stuff. If you receive sweets as a gift, stick them at the back of the freezer, and only take out ONE at a time. Drink plenty of water. More than you think you need. The body will declutter the excess for you. But never too little water. Prepare some precut veggies and have a stock of your favourite fruit on hand.
Get your sleep together. It helps with memorization and with sufficient sleep, nutrition and water, your brain can heal up and start memorizing efficiently the information you learn. Never neglect sleep. Never do late study sessions, instead planify better your study times.
Cut off people that bring you down. People that always bring you to parties and guilt trip if you donât wanna. They donât care that much about you. Cut off those that arenât serious in their studies, they donât realize the importance of studies and itâs lifetime impact. If you canât cut them dry (block and move on), ghost them, donât reply their questions with a question back, be bland to them. A Queen only wants the best around her, and is ruthless in her judgement.
Once you start the semester, study every day, even if you have nothing to do that day (especially at the beginning of the semester). You can even get ahead in your studies and use the class as a refresher for what you did study. Youâll feel more comfortable and have some questions prepared too! Figuring things out while it is being taught can be quite stressful. For laboratories, do several weekly hours of self-study, repeating the methods you learned. Use your teachers free hours anytime you have additional questions or need additional explanations, not only right before an exam. Take your time and speed up once youâre comfortable. Learn to fail when it doesnât matters so you wonât fail when it will matter.
Re-read your notes twice or thrice or four times, annotate them, summarize every paragraph. Write a âfake cheatsheetâ that summarizes every step of the semester. Draw some conceptual schemes, make links between concepts. Do all the excercises, and redo the hardest ones before the exam. Do the pratice exams, check the past years exams if theyâre available. Theyâll give you an idea of your teacherâs exam style.
Studying bit by bit instead of a big rush at the end will help you immensely assimilate correctly the information (less stress = better memorization, and repeated study = the memory is more precise and you have less memory losses).
Doing a cardio workout everyday increases your brain power. It can be a 30 min energetic walk outside, it can be a intensive cardio workout, it can be a 1 hour yoga session. Pair that with a good stretch routine (that back needs stretches sfter that long study session!) and a muscle workout too to tone up your muscles and keep you looking sharp. Excercise helps you relieve your stress, and feel more grounded, and feel more confident. More confidence also means thereâs less stress, better focus, and better social interactions. Make it a fundamental tool in your study artillery.
Combine several activities at the same time, you can watch movies while you workout instead of sleeping too late. You can study your biology while doing your cardio workout. Listen to audiobooks relevant to your domain while walking outside. Do your mask while youâre doing your yoga routine. No wasted time, and no excuses.
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“To get over the past you first have to accept that the past is over. No matter how many times you revisit it, analyze it, regret it, or sweat it… it’s over. It can hurt you no more.”
